My lesson was canceled for today due to a windstorm and the highest level of fire danger. We are staying put and guarding our homes. We are not as vulnerable as my trainer’s place (which is further out) but we do have a fire hazard next door to us.
The house next door was sold four years ago, but health and family issues of the new owner kept her from occupying it. As you can imagine, it is extremely overgrown around the house (we let our horses graze the pasture and another neighbor cuts it for hay.)
Though we each have 10-14 acre lots. The actual homes were built very close to each other. We have a gate between the two that we used to go back and forth to visit one another.
This year we talked about our daughter renting part of the house and caretaking it, and she asked us to do that, but it took until this week to hammer that out and get keys. Yesterday, my husband went over with the tractor and started to mow through it, but the weeds are higher than me, and you have to be really careful not to mow down spigots and other items hidden in the grass. (We had to talk with the former owners to find the appropriate locations of the structural items.)
There have already been some casualties, clay pots, but nothing too bad. Our tractor overheated with the work and the actual heat of the day, almost 100 yesterday, but he was able to get a good part of it done between our homes and in front of hers. Unfortunately, there is a half dead tree that hangs onto her roof and would present a huge danger if fire ever reaches the property.
The inside of the house was in decent shape, but there had been obvious break-ins. Three windows are cracked and we found three doors wide open where cats had gotten in and killed birds. It appears the initial break in was through a window that was left unlocked. You can see a muddy footprint on the table underneath it.
It’s going to be a lot of work, but it will be nice to have daughter and grandson next door for maybe the next year, longer if we’re lucky, and it will be good for the neighborhood to make it less of a fire danger. I don’t know if she will come and live in it or sell it. Time will tell. The downstairs has its own separate apartment, so they can both live in it, if that’s what she chooses. (She says that’s what she wants to do, so that is what we’re operating from.)
She is lucky (and so are we) that there were not permanent squatters. Through the years we had run off people who would go back there and park, but it’s impossible to know what happens at night when we’re sleeping. Our daughter will be installing Ring cameras, first thing and we turned on the porch lights to signal it is no longer abandoned.
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Speaking of my daughter, the divorce was finalized in July and he remarried the next day. For me, that is a relief. It shut the emotional door. While, of course, I’m sad it happened, I realize how intricately our lives are intertwined with the grandson we all love, and my only concern now is that they ALL do well. I pray that each one of them heals, finds happiness and creates loving homes for the children. So far, that seems to be happening.
It is not a coincidence that the keys to the house next door arrived on—guess what day…? Yes, the exact day the divorce was finalized. She said they were in the mail two months before, but she actually sent them days before the finalization and a mysterious big, HEAVY package showed up at our gate. We didn’t know who it was from, and were a little scared to open it, but when we did, it was full of children’s books and keys. It was further confirmation to me (and my daughter) that everything is in God’s hands, and He works in mysterious ways.
Mysterious ways indeed. Especially the timely key/package. So wonderful that your daughter and grandson will be living next door!! A win for all concerned and another step to moving on. Which we all must find inner strength to do when life takes an unexpected twist.
ReplyDeleteYikes on the Squatters! I didn't even know it was a thing until a couple years ago. Wildfires are frightening!! Sadly the disaster extremes experienced around the world are the new normal, and only going to get worse. Stay safe.
Yes, at first I wasn’t at all sure she should tackle the project, but when my daughter told me how much it comforted her to be able to slowly gain independence again, yet not traumatize her son by moving away from his support network (us), we all got in board. It is helping her move forward.
DeleteYes, also about unexpected twists. This wasn’t the first, nor will it be the last. It is all about the *individual journey and the individual healing. A marital partner is great, but in the end, it is all about ourselves. And not in a narcissistic way, but in the way of it being the true reality.
Squatters can be hard to get out once they get in, so I am happy no one set up permanent residence. Yay!
We have a serious risk of fire here too. It’s frightening. How wonderful that your daughter can live next door. I admire your grace in the difficult situation. I would really struggle but I’m sure you have.
ReplyDeleteOh yeah, the struggle is the heartbreak over Plan A, but in my own life, Plan B was much better, and I hope that is the same for everyone involved. It happened, make it beautiful anyway, hopefully, even better.
DeleteI am so happy that your daughter and grandson are moving next door! That has to be a big relief for you and her. Yes, God sure does have plans for us, and all things happen in His time.
ReplyDeleteHopefully anyone who broke in before will see that it is no longer available to them, and yup to the security cameras.
So true and, as I told my daughter, God has a plan for her ex, too. We don’t know the intricate details of everyone’s lives that bring them to their choices, but God does and he will take care of it. If not in this life, the next. It’s actually a huge burden lifted to know that. I think we struggle with rejection and grieve losses, we want answers and even blame ourselves, but each individual is on their own unique path and sometimes their choices have nothing to do with us and everything to do with their own brokenness, which only a loving creator can heal.
DeleteThe cameras will definitely help and we will be right next door should anything happen. We’re also going to start parking extra vehicles in front and putting lamps on timers. We will make it look like a party is going on everyday! Haha!
This sounds like a win-win situation all the way around! It'll be nice to have daughter and grandson right next door. I'm really glad there weren't any permanent squatters, as those can be a nightmare to remove.
ReplyDeleteIt really is a match made in heaven, no matter how long it lasts.
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