Friday, January 10, 2025

To Be A Tumbleweed

 

 

Last year I read two books about habits that discouraged making goals because, for many people, goals become end points. For example, a goal like, I want to lose 10 pounds for my daughter's wedding, might work, but after the wedding I might also gain them all back. 

I was thinking about it this year and I like goals. 

In fact, what if goals are just POINTS, (not end points) on a line that extends forever?

My dad once drew a line with two arrows at the end, and he said this is God; he has no beginning and no end. Then he drew a dot on the line, and he said this is you right now. Sadly, I can't remember what else he said. I was really young. But my mind did focus in on the idea of God having no beginning and no end.

My dad believed that our bodies are finite, but our spirits are created to understand, and exist, in eternity. They are eternal  and have no chronological age. While my body might be X years old, my spirit stands outside of time, and has NO AGE.

Goals, for me, are merely a looking forward, more like a "what's next" and how do I get there?

Horse Goals. 

(MORE of this! Walk it, then ride it!)

I want Tweed to TRUST me. I want him to know that wherever we go, we are a team.

Last year we attended a despooking clinic and registered for a 2 hour spot. In retrospect, I would not do that again. Perhaps, an all day clinic, but not two hours. It did not give us the time to adequately work through his fears, and quitting too early in the process set us back.

Also, last year I needed my trainer to help me keep moving forward SAFELY with Tweed because my mind and heart were pre-occupied. This year, I want to be more of an independent team. 

Another goal is to get my grandson going with horses. He's still very young, and he screams with joy when he's on their back--which is very sweet--but it stresses them out. I have a rule around here that you can only ride horses if you also help clean stalls, and he has been doing that for over a year now. He has earned his riding time, ...but I will need to find ways to make it work for both him and Foxy.

I feel like there is one more horse in our future--yet to be revealed--that will be good for the grandkids. No rush though.

Personal Goals.


(The photo I took for my online flute lesson account. That scarf I'm wearing is my old lady scarf and I LOVE it. It's a triangle scarf made of cashmere from the Banana Republic and it is so, so, so soft. I got it this year by fluke, and most days I am wrapped tight in its loving arms of magical angel kisses. Do yourself a favor and buy one before they're all gone!)

I had my first flute lesson with a super fun instructor online yesterday. She is the Flute Lady 101 on YouTube and she travels to beautiful spots, plays her flute, and gives tips. I'd never used Zoom for a lesson before, but once I worked out the snafus on my end, it worked quite well. I'm looking forward to many more lessons with Kate, which is also a goal--take lessons and be on a development program.


I don't know if I shared this, but last summer I would play my flute back and forth to the barn, and our neighbor's cows got interested and came to the fence line. It started a thing--every once in a while I'd walk over and serenade the cows at sunset. They are not a picky audience, but they don't particularly like the high notes.


I don't know how much longer I will have with Tuffy, but I plan to enjoy every minute I can with this sweet sanctuary boy. 

I look forward to my spring 2025 barn garden: new tomatoes, flowers, and probably another batch of jalapenos and habaneros. 


Snow-covered Thyme.


Of course, lots of walks! Whenever we can be outside--rain, snow, or shine--we need to be out exploring.



We have two trips planned this winter. The first one is to Arizona. We purchased plane tickets, but not a hotel/Air BnB. The plan is to wait until the last minute and see how we feel and what the weather looks like. We have five days to just be tumbleweeds and go where the wind blows us.

Perhaps, that will be my last goal for 2025--and the theme--BE A TUMBLEWEED. Tumbleweeds are being blown forward, not in an exact line, and certainly not in a predictable one, but light as a feather and freer than the birds.


14 comments:

  1. I like goals. As you know. It keeps me focused on what is important.

    We are also going to Arizona the first part of March! I am excited. We’re doing a few days in Sedona and the rest south of Phoenix.

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    1. Sedona is my favorite spot, maybe in the world! We went twice last year, and one of the times we hit lots of snow. That was February. The second visit was in peak season, April. Perfect weather, but lots of crowds. We’re going to watch the weather, and if it looks hikeable, that’s where we’re going. If not, I’m not sure where—but probably Tucson, Wickenberg, the wine country (Willcox / Elgin), or Bisbee. We were just in Tucson and Bisbee in November. Wickenburg is hosting Art of the Cowgirl in late February. I have friends going to it.

      Do you know where you’re going in the South!

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    2. We’re staying in the San Tan valley. I’m hoping to try to visit some wineries.

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    3. I’m not familiar with the San Tan Valley. Our favorite wineries are Callaghan Vineyards, in Elgin, and Chateau Tumbleweed in Clarkdale, next to Sedona. My first interest in Tumbleweed wines was only that it shared a name with my horse. It turns out, though, I really do like their wine. Their grapes come from Willcox and Elgin. When we were in Tucson last, we went to an Arizona wine cooperative and got to taste a lot of Arizona wines in one sitting. That was fun.

      We started going to Arizona regularly about 23 years ago, and there was a restaurant that allowed you to bring in your own wine, no cork fee. We stopped at a big wine store and asked for an “Arizona wine” and they just laughed at us. They finally found one, though, and it was a white wine in a hand painted bottle. We never tried it. It’s funny to think they can produce such good wine now, but then Arizona has very interesting, and varied, topography.

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    4. There is a beautiful national park in the San Tan valley. Lots of hiking. Mostly I’m looking forward to warm weather!

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  2. I agree with your dad. Words of wisdom there.
    I hope you have a wonderful Tumbleweed year- both with your personal and equine life!
    Here is a thought with your grandson- when he screams with joy on the horse, get him to sing with joy instead. I'm sure Foxy will appreciate it!

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    1. It’s worth a try. My hope is that with enough exposure, he gets used to it and just calms down into the experience. I took him on the Looff Carousel last week, and he did the same thing, and his heart was pounding out of his chest. A few times around and he started to regulate and calm. I think horses will be really good for him when we get this figured out. If he gets in tune with their quiet strength, it will teach him the same.

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    2. Maybe have him start the song before he gets on and ask him to continue it as he is on, maybe singing it with him

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    3. Good idea! Thank you. I will try it tomorrow and let you know how it goes.

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  3. Have fun on your trip. I love Arizona and have been there many times after my grandparents retired to Phoenix. I think Sedona is my favorite place too. I like the idea of being a tumbleweed and going where the wind blows! When I first started visiting Arizona, maybe forty years or so ago there were actually tumbleweeds blowing down the Black Canyon Freeway. Phoenix wasn't so built up then. Enjoy your trip!

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    1. Arizona has changed so much around Phoenix just in the time I’ve been going. I can’t even imagine what it was like 40 years ago, but probably very real western. Now, it’s so built up around there with homes and high rise apartments.

      Wickenburg still has the small town feel, but you can see the growth starting to happen. Prescott is another one we checked out last year, a lovely little town. Bisbee never changes much. I think it’s just too far away from the cities. That’s where my great-grandmother is buried, so it is worth the pilgrimage for us.

      Nice image of tumbleweeds blowing down the freeway. That will be us! We need to decide which direction we will be blowing soon.

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  4. What a great thought provoking post! Love the cow story & your Tumbleweed choice. I bet your kitty enjoys hearing you play music as well. My oldest cat (Sandra) enjoyed life until she was 19.

    I like Shirley's idea/s for your grandson riding. We have tried having our grands help out in the barn upon occasion, but they are tiny kids. With three of them it turns into chaos and less than helpful lol. Enjoy your trips!

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    1. That’s funny! I can imagine your little helpers making more work for you! At least they’re out there “trying.” Someday!

      I’m not sure if my barn cat loves the flute, but he sure loves the company. He lives a lonely life since his sister disappeared. I thought about introducing him a friend, but I think he’s too old for that and it could cause more problems.

      When I sit and play the little piano in my room, he is at the perfect height on the loveseat to rub against my arm. So, I think he prefers I play the piano. 😉

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  5. When I started Noom, they said something similar about goals - that we tend to see them as end points instead of a way point. It was super helpful for me to reframe them that way. I have goals, yes, but that doesn't mean I get to stop doing what I did to get there :)

    I do love Shirley's idea of singing when on the horse. Heck, I sing to Skeeter all the time. I think she thinks I'm crazy, but it keeps me breathing.

    I love your plans for this year, and look forward to following along on your adventures.

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