This photo popped up on social media today, and I wanted to share it because it represents this stage of my life--in all areas. After a year and half of the pandemic, and so much divisiveness, I felt like everywhere I looked there was nothing but toxicity. Screw you. No, screw you. Screw you double. Screw you triple. And so on. I also realized that even with people I agree with 95% of the time, the 5% on which we don't agree was also divisive, and there is no way two people can agree 100% of the time. Our opinions are like fingerprints--or snowflakes--no two are exactly alike. We seek to congregate with like-minded, but even in that group, we will find places to be not-like-minded.
But there are things we can all agree on, and that feed us--love, kindness, forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, and joy.
And those things also translate to our horse-human relationships.
If our horses are mirrors of anything, it is the list above. The prey animal knows what's important: when to fight, what's important to fight for, and when not to fight. They understand real trust, and only give it when it's earned. They understand your smile, when your heart wells up inside with love, as you approach them. A horse motivated by fear gives you fear responses. A horse motivated by trust and love, gives you trust responses.
The photo above is Epona on the bridge. I asked her to come up, and she did so--over and over and over. At first, she jumped back off, but after a while, she stayed on for as long as I wanted her to. That's trust and willingness, and it's exactly what we should have with all our horses. It takes more time. And it takes giving up something in us that wants to force and fight.
We had planned to go on a trail ride yesterday, but ended up digging out a wire that was shorting the automatic water heater. It took all day. I decided it would be a good time to put Cowgirl and Epona back together, for the entire day, and see how they did.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels,