Monday, October 4, 2021

More Love and Trust

This photo popped up on social media today, and I wanted to share it because it represents this stage of my life--in all areas. After a year and half of the pandemic, and so much divisiveness, I felt like everywhere I looked there was nothing but toxicity. Screw you. No, screw you. Screw you double. Screw you triple. And so on. I also realized that even with people I agree with 95% of the time, the 5% on which we don't agree was also divisive, and there is no way two people can agree 100% of the time. Our opinions are like fingerprints--or snowflakes--no two are exactly alike. We seek to congregate with like-minded, but even in that group, we will find places to be not-like-minded. 

But there are things we can all agree on, and that feed us--love, kindness, forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, and joy. 

And those things also translate to our horse-human relationships. 

If our horses are mirrors of anything, it is the list above. The prey animal knows what's important: when to fight, what's important to fight for, and when not to fight. They understand real trust, and only give it when it's earned. They understand your smile, when your heart wells up inside with love, as you approach them. A horse motivated by fear gives you fear responses. A horse motivated by trust and love, gives you trust responses.

The photo above is Epona on the bridge. I asked her to come up, and she did so--over and over and over. At first, she jumped back off, but after a while, she stayed on for as long as I wanted her to. That's trust and willingness, and it's exactly what we should have with all our horses. It takes more time. And it takes giving up something in us that wants to force and fight. 

We had planned to go on a trail ride yesterday, but ended up digging out a wire that was shorting the automatic water heater. It took all day. I decided it would be a good time to put Cowgirl and Epona back together, for the entire day, and see how they did.

They did very well. No nursing. So, I think it's safe to put them together like this everyday, and soon join their stalls and runs back together. I would do it now, but I want Epona to have access to more and hay and grain than would be possible if Cowgirl is with her. Soon though.

As I was sitting out there with them, Tumbleweed made his approach, trying to be as non-threatening as possible. Epona is really drawn to him, but is also trying to mind mama.

My refocus on love and trust really started after the summer wedding. You may remember I told you that the attendees represented all walks of life--and they did. However, there was one thing that united us all, love. We loved the two people getting married enough to say, if you love them, too, something is really right with you, and I want to extend my arms, my heart, my friendship. And I thought, if only all of life were that way, divisions would disappear instantly.

The scripture that was read during their ceremony is one we have all come to know very well, but hearing it in that setting, at this time, it resonated more deeply than ever before--

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, 
but have not love, 
I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, 
and if I have a faith that can move mountains, 
but have not love, 
I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, 
but have not love, 
I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 

Love never fails. 

Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

That kind of love is powerful. The plants know it. The horses know it. The universe knows it. And, we need it. If we think we can act one way in life, but another with our horses, we are lying to ourselves. Our horses are a more perfect mirror, and the image they're seeing is the whole person--the person that woke up this morning, the person that greeted their neighbor, the person that logged into Facebook and Instagram, --all of what we are, they see. 

I'm thankful for that, because there are days where my heart is really troubled, and I go to the barn to clean stalls and play with the horses I adore--and they remind me to let it all go. Harbor no grudge. Offer no excuses. Cling to what I know is true, and take comfort there.


  1. If we focused more on what unites us than what divides us then the world would be a much kinder place.

  2. This was lovely today, thank you.

  3. Great post! I really don’t like the toxic environment we live in these days. I can basically get along with everyone even if they have different opinions than I do, but there seems to be lots of people nowadays that really can’t be reasonable.

    Love Tweed and Epona video. Cowgirl and Epona look sweet and happy together. 🥰

    1. They seem to have taken right back off as if they had no time apart. It’s funny that she’s being returned to mama about the time most are weaned.

      Re the mood of the country, I think the nerves are worn thin nowadays. Here’s hoping for better days! ❤️

  4. The whole world has gone toxic; the only way it will change is if we change ourselves and how we deal with everyone else. You pretty much nailed it in this post. Sadly, this toxicity is so deeply ingrained in so many people that they may never see the light and truth of love.
    I read something the other day about that Bible verse; the translation of the word love is actually closer to our word charity. That may make it easier for some people to understand how to live that verse.
    Loved the videos- nice to see mama and baby together. Also interesting that mama didn't try to interfere and protect her Epona from Tumbleweed.

    1. Cowgirl will allow her to say hello briefly, but then there seems to be some communication between them that says, time’s up. Tumbleweed was careful to appear non-threatening.

      Yes, there is a lot of toxicity out there, and we could all use a major detox session. But I have found that people are really receptive to kindness. When I say that, I mean that they seem more receptive to kindness than ever before. We all have masks on, so it really takes kind words in lieu of a smile. Lots of thank you’d, and have a good day. We can only control ourselves and our microcosm and what we send out into the universe.


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