Friday, May 17, 2019
The Non-Ridden Equine
This has been a year of soul-searching and redefining expectations for me and Beautiful Girl. I've had so many questions swirling in my mind:
Does she want to have a relationship with me?
Is a non-riding relationship a worthy one?
Can we still have goals in a non-riding world?
Have I let her down by not developing her into a saddle horse?
Is there still a future for us in a riding relationship?
What is it that caused our riding relationship to derail so spectacularly?
Is there another route I've overlooked?
The answers are a work-in-progress, but I did recently come across a Facebook page devoted to "the non-ridden horse," and I have seen some amazing equine work and relationships there that have inspired me anew.
Last week I had a pampering day with all the horses, and BG just ate it up. She loves being groomed--brushed, clipped, bathed, sprayed with fly spray. In fact, she loves all those things more than any of the others. She excels at it. And she seems to know it.
It reminded me of our adventures last summer, before the riding incident, when I'd take her to the state park and work with her on the ground over the trail course--she did every station perfect the first time, and she loved being ponied out there.
So, I've made a decision to keep those things up because they seem to be extremely rewarding to her--and me.
I haven't answered all those swirling questions, but I did answer the first few:
Yes, Beautiful Girl does want to have relationship with me, and she has earned my respect on the ground--and she should take pride in that and see where it grows, and
Yes, a non-riding relationship with her is every bit equal in value to a riding one, and we can still have goals in that non-riding world--relationship, communication, and growth.
Do any of you have horses that are strictly non-riding relationships? Do you have resources like the Facebook group? Inspiration? Goals?